Achieving goals with soft skills

Less effort

More effect

We believe that achieving goals with soft skills costs you less effort, and will sort more effect. Moreover, using soft skills to achieve your goals allows you to build valuable relationships.

Here we describe why we believe achieving goals with soft skills offers real advantages. At the end we have listed how coaching in achieving goals with soft skills may help you in using them effectively.

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Achieving goals with soft skills

We all have goals we want to achieve – goals for our life, our career, our business or e.g. our families. When you start out to achieve these goals, think about this:

  • To achieve a goal it is necessary to take action.
  • Most goals require actions involving other people.
  • People react positively to others who are at ease.

Achieving goals with less effort

Most of the language around goal setting and achieving goals focuses on the challenge of the performance. We offer a perspective of less effort and more effect.

Achieving goals with less effort involves using soft skills. In our experience achieving goals is made easier when you know how to involve other people in a mutually beneficial and cordial relationship. Using soft skills enables you to build such a relationship.

Soft skills do not replace the hard matters of research, planning, try-out, adaptation and finding an approach to take the action itself. Using soft skills simply enables other people to hear what you want and yield to your initiatives. You invite people to look with sympathy on your goal. It ensures a willingness to support you.

The critical success factor for this approach to work is that you are comfortable and at ease with applying soft skills in achieving your goals. People will only respond positively to you when you are comfortable and at ease. A relaxed approach follows naturally when you focus on what you want to achieve and are capable of doing. This allows you to have confidence in applying soft skills and enables you to act in an authentic way.

Achieving goals without experiencing tension

Achieving goals with less effort begins with making sure you are comfortable with the process of achievement. Taking an action requires the least effort and has the most effect when you feel comfortable about it. You feel comfortable when you do not experience doubts or feel reticent in the use of soft skills. Coaching supports you in feeling confident in the use of the soft skills you need to achieve your goal.

When you feel comfortable, other people feel comfortable around you. This makes it easier for them to be involved. When you are tense, it also causes tension for the people you want to achieve something with.

Tension disrupts relations

Normally, with the language of effort and performance in mind, the focus of the process of achievement is on ‘what has to be done’. With this the possibility of failure comes automatically to mind. As soon as you are uncertain about the outcome of the performance, tension rises. Other people pick up on this. It immediately becomes less likely that they will want be involved and want to share the effort with you. Using soft skills in this situation will be counterproductive. People will notice your use of soft skills as forced and not authentic.

Focus on what you want and what you can do

However, when you focus on what you want to do and on what you are capable of doing easily, there is very little tension. When you limit yourself in your actions to what you are comfortable about you stay within the range where others can and will respond to you.

When we are at ease, there is room for friendly contact, fair exploration, and reliable responses. Your actions get feedback from others in a way that supplies workable information. Using soft skills in this manner builds relationships, and allows for next steps you are comfortable with as well.

Relationships at ease lead easily to real results

When you are relaxed you will engage with other people as you really are. People are willing to share when you care to show yourself without the tension and defenses that result from the approach that is focused on the challenge of performance.

This relaxed approach is easily achieved by focusing on what you want and on doing what you find easy to do. It now becomes possible to use soft skills to network realistically, define an honest offer, find out what works and what advantages others need, get the right information from feedback, and much more.

Coaching helps you to experience what the relaxed use of soft skills to achieve your goals offers in spontaneous willingness where people share what you need.

Coaching to achieve your goals with soft skills

Our coaching in achieving your goals with the help of soft skills supports you to:

  • Set the right goals and objectives
  • Identify the available means
  • Approach people authentically and at ease
  • Pinpoint, learn or strengthen the soft skills that are essential in the process
  • Make the right evaluation of what happens
  • Adapt your actions without tension
  • Not react in a defensive manner
  • Answer opposition with the right persuasion approach
  • Expand your social range so that you are able to relate to most people
  • Develop a social compass that shows you what people need from you in the form of a soft skill

In principle you are already capable of all of this. However, when circumstances change and pressure builds, people tend to internalize perceived limitations. This gets to be an inner reality. It determines how you interpret what is required to reach your goal and what you are capable of.

Coaching in achieving your goals helps you to determine first what it is you want. You do this without taking the perceived limitations of your capabilities and possibilities into account. It then becomes possible to judge the situation truthfully and determine what you are really capable of.

Next you determine what soft skills you need to achieve your goal. You probably already possess these soft skills. Coaching shows you how to apply them. You experiment with them until you are completely comfortable using them. In this way, coaching will show you that what seemed impossible becomes possible with the use of the right soft skills.  The result will be you achieve your goals with less effort and more effect.